By Scott Shaw
People come at
life based upon one of two mindsets: confidence or insecurity. If one is
confident then they approach life with a sense of dynamic awareness. If, on the
other hand, they are insecure, they come at life, and the people interactive
with their life, from a space of fear, judgment, and dismissal.
As is explained
in the theory of Yin and Yang, in all
dark there is a bit of light, just as in all light there is a bit of darkness.
We can also attach this understanding to the human condition of personal
psychological definition and how a person behaves based upon their
psychological conditioning.
There are two
distinct breeds of the insecure person. The first is the meek. They are the
very passive, the reserved, and the person who fades into any sphere of
personal interaction they encounter because they do not feel worthy on any
level of human comparison. The person who embraces this style of insecurity is
commonly the one who is the most easily taken advantage of because they are
easily manipulated.
The other style
of insecure person is the boisterous, the outspoken, the hateful, the
judgmental, and the all knowing. Though they appear to be very self-assured, in
truth, they are not. In fact, they are just the opposite and that is why they
behave in such a forthright manner. Thus, Yang
in the Yin.
Due to the fact
that they do not possess a clear sense of self, self-awareness, and are hiding
their true inner-definition from the world, they focus on life elements outside
of themselves in order to make themselves appear to be more than what they
actually are or to keep the focus of other people from truly focusing on them.
Many times, the
insecure person will project a position of all-knowing judgment. This, however,
is just a disingenuous method to get people to not look too closely at the
flaws this person possesses.
The thing about a
person who bases their life upon personal insecurity is that they will rarely,
if ever, state that they are an insecure person. In fact, some are so unaware
of their interpersonal demons that they do not even realize it. For those who
are aware of the fact that they possess an insecure mentality, many will hide
this fact by any means possible in order to protect themselves from attacks and
reprisals.
The number one
thing that a person who is defined by insecurity will project is the mind
reality of, look the other way. Do not look at me. This, as stated, may be
presented by hiding from the world or it may be illustrated by throwing
judgments left and right so others will think about other things and not them.
In either case, the person who is based upon psychological insecurity will
rarely posses the refined, discerning mindset to be able to admit their problem
to themselves and dig down to the root of that life expression and thereby
emerge as a whole, complete, and self-actualize individual.
The answer? There
is none. As insecurity is a problem that exists within and is wholly expressed
by the individual, only the individual can create a change within himself or
herself. Thus, you can explain to them who they are. You can suggest what they
should do and what they should stop doing. But, it is only when they choose to
actually take a long hard look at themselves, study and then redefine their
projection of reality that they can ever move away from being defined by
insecurity.
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