Here’s a previously published article
that I wrote a few years ago.
By
Scott Shaw
Each person wants to exist in a world
where they are liked, loved, well thought of, and even respected. They want to
be cared about and they want to have their life mean something. To achieve
this, people go to all kinds of lengths. The problem is, these lengths are
commonly defined by less than ideal actions. From this, though a person may, at
least temporarily gain some of the something they desire, it eventually falls
away because it was not a life constructed upon consciousness, thinking of
others first, and caring about humanity more than one cares about themselves.
Take a moment and think about the various
things you have wanted for your life. Look at what you want now. What are you
doing to receive it? But, more
importantly, think back to what you wanted one year ago, five years ago, ten
years ago. Did you receive those life-things? If so, what was the price of you
getting them? How did you getting them affect others? And, once you got them
did they truly make you a better, more whole and happy individual?
This is thing about time; it allows us to
gain perspective.
In life, there is one common problem.
That problem is, most people think about themselves first. They only care about
other people in so much as they affect them. Obviously, this is a very selfish
mindset. But, this is how much of the
world operates.
Think about this, how many times has
someone only been thinking about themselves and your life or your life
evolution was negatively affected by their behavior? Now think about this, how
many times have you hurt someone else’s life by you only thinking about
yourself and you did not even care?
Right now, take a moment. Think back one
day, one month, one year, or five years—think about another person that you
interacted with. Focus on them instead of yourself. Think about how your own self-involved,
selfishness affected them. You probably didn’t care then. Do you care now?
If you live your entire life based in a
space of self-absorption you exist in a very selfish realm of consciousness.
The fact is, many people don’t care. They justify their actions. “I am doing
this to get that.” “People have hurt me so I have the right to hurt them.” But,
more then these mentally verbalized excuses; most people are so lost into the
realms of the selfish-self that they do not even take the time to take others
into consideration. They do what they do. They do what they do and at best they
make up justifications and/or excuses for their actions. But, the fact is, the
moment another person has entered your life, either by choice or by fate, you
are forever intertwined with them. Anything you do that affects them, affects
you. And, though you may gain what you want for your life in any given moment
by exhibiting bad or selfish behavior, it is that behavior, in and of itself,
that will eventually cause you to lose they thing you gained and/or not achieve
your ultimate dreams.
Think about life. Think about the people
in your life. Think about the people that you actually know; not someone that
you have heard about. Think about these people because by looking at them you
know what you know; it is not some abstract rumor, thought, or impression. Think about these people. How many of them
are truly happy, truly fulfilled, have truly obtained what they have wanted
from and for their life? For most of us, when we actually take the time to take
a conscious look we will see that most people are unfilled and have not
achieved their whole and compete dreams. This is simply a fact of life.
Again, look at these people. What have
they done to get where they wanted to be? In their process who’s life did they
damage in a small or a large way?
From any damage comes further damage. The
damaged go on to damaging others. Why? Because they have been hurt. From this
hurt they feel they have the right and/or the need to hurt others. “It’s been
done to me.” But, this is biggest excuse that many people employee and the
entirely wrong space to live your life from. This is a space of expounding the
negative in life; not the positive. If you consciously set about on a path to
hurt, by saying bad things or by doing bad things to any other person, your
life will forever be defined by those actions. This is why most people never
live their life dream. They are held back by their thoughts, words, deeds, and
actions.
Many people, however, do not knowingly
set out to damage the life of other people. But, they do not take conscious action.
They simply do what they do without conscious thought. Is this style of
behavior then forgivable because it was not consciously set in motion? No, it
is not. For if you go through life lost in your self, locked in your own mind,
then by that very thought process you have committed the ultimate sin—you only
thought about yourself instead of the great whole.
People lie. People cheat. People steal.
People deceive. People hurt other people; whether consciously or not. People
lie to themselves about what they have done. People justify what they have
done. People do all of these things to get what they want. But, if getting what
you want involves the damage of anyone or anything you will never truly get
what you want. If you do, it will only be very short-lived. And then, you will
have had it but will suffer from the losing of it.
If you are not thinking about others
first, if you are not putting other people first, you are living your life from
a very selfish mind-space. From this, all that is born is disaster. Be more.
Care about the other person first. From this, a whole new world of internal
achievement is given birth to.
Try it out. See how it feels.
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